Dealing with Abuse

 Abuse

Abuse isn’t always simply physical or verbal. It can be mental as well, something so dangerous it takes years to recover and for some it completely consumes them, and they can never heal properly. A lifetime of underhanded jokes, smart remarks, and manipulation, someone trying to make you feel bad for your personal life choices. When you are really trying to do your best, for yourself and your family!

When living in this situation for many years it begins to wear and tear at your inner being. It is the daunting reality of indecisiveness, low self-esteem, and minimal self-worth. And the worst part is, it isn’t always like that somedays are great amazing and fun but at a flip of a switch it all changes just when you thought it was all going great. BOOM!! One minor slip up and every single mistake you’ve made in your entire live is brought back to surface to relive again! Walking on eggshells trying to stay in the good graces, is no way to live life. 

This isn’t living this is fear! Fear of what is to come next time you forget something or do something they wouldn’t agree with. This is control, and when they seem to no longer have that they will lose control! This is a reflection of their inner person; this says nothing about you and who you are! We cannot let people of this world define who we are and how we see ourselves. 

Dealing with this not only hurts in the moment but it’s a lifetime of healing and growing and discovering who you are. This is no short feat and sometimes you will fall back into those feelings and trying to find a way out! Yourself worth cannot be found in man no matter who it is or how much you love them! Sometimes it is best to remove ourselves entirely from the situation to find what is best for us! We don’t need the approval of this world or anyone in it! Our sole purpose is to live a life pleasing to the Lord, and our Heavenly father tells us we are loved, chosen, wanted, special, enough, worthy, even in all of our flaws and failures he never says any different. Each of our short comings are known to him, he knows all but that doesn’t make him love us any less. He is the definition of unconditional LOVE! There is no fine print! His love is pure and perfect from beginning to end! The true always and forever! 

If you put yourself worth in the eyes of man, you will always come up short to them. They want perfection even though they aren’t perfect themselves. Our self-worth should come from above the all-seeing, all-knowing, all-powerful GOD. There was only one man who ever walked a perfect life! He gave his life so each and every one of us imperfect people may be made new. His sacrifice gave us a chance to have that perfection! As soon as we can place our faith and trust in him that thought we were good enough to DIE for. We won't care about what anyone of this world thinks of us!